WHAT TO O WHEN THE LOVE RUNS OUT

Exposing The Enemy's Tactic In Your Relationships

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Remember this:

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I’m about to expose to you Satan’s device in your life

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that will always cause you to fall.

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When Satan comes to you,

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when the devil comes to you,

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alright, he will always try to make God appear demanding.

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He’ll come to you and say, “Your marriage is in trouble."

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"You think God really cares? I mean God is busy with"

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"running the universe, you know what I’m saying?"

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"You know, and God is involved with Pastor Lawrence"

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"because one time the weight fell on his face."

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"So every time he goes to the gym now God is there,"

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with His full Shekinah glory helping him with the weight,"

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"You really think, you really, really think God is"

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"involved, pouring out His goodness on your marriage?"

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"Look at the state of your marriage. Look at it."

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"You’re quarrelling all the time, you think God is involved?”

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I’ll tell you something, the very area that is attacked,

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is the area God is focused on.

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If you can, write this somewhere in your heart,

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I wrote this in my notebook some time ago.

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Whatever produces a care in your heart,

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whatever produces a care in your heart,

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produces God’s care for you.

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If it’s a care in your heart, God cares for it,

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God cares for you.

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Jesus even said the very hairs on your head are all numbered.

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Even if it’s zero, He knows the number.

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You know, my boy Justin, doesn’t have too much hair yet.

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I think if I take time, I can count his hair, it’s very fine.

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But you know what, I love him very much but

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I never take the time to count the hairs on his head.

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But Jesus says your Father knows

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the numbers of hair on your head.

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Don’t think that God is so big He runs the entire universe,

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that is the wonder of God.

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He cares for every care in your heart.

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Casting all your cares on Him because He cares for you.

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Remember this, tuck this somewhere in your heart.

Stop Placing Demands On Yourself!

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God will not ask you to do something

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that He will not work in you. Amen?

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You don’t have it say, “God work in me.”

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You know we say that,

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“Whoa Pastor Prince I’m willing to do this for Jesus.”

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Yeah even that willingness didn’t come from you.

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God supplied it. And at the end even if you do something for God,

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even the doing, God works in you to do

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for His good pleasure.

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You say, “Pastor Prince, I’m not willing. I’m not…"

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"Don’t even talk about saving my marriage. I’m not even willing."

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Alright, then don’t even try, let God work it in.

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I said let God work it in. God is constantly working in us.

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We don’t have something, don’t push it, rest.

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Don’t demand from yourself what you don’t have.

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God is not asking you to do what you don’t have.

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But God is saying: "Be open to what I’m doing, working in you."

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"I’ll give you the willingness."

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"And I’ll give you the performance of my will."

Has The Love Run Out?

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You say: “My marriage Pastor Prince, you don’t understand my marriage.”

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What’s the problem in your marriage?

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"There’s no passion, no more passion (French), it’s gone."

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"I watch the Korean dramas, the guy makes heart-shaped candles."

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Ok I need to clarify, that guy didn’t okay?

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The acting crew did.

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With all respect, with all due respect to Korean men,

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Korean men are just like Singapore men. Men are men.

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Amen? They are not romantic all the time, okay so be careful

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that Korean dramas don’t transform you,

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alright, into a high expectation of demand.

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Okay? don’t forget. So what’s missing, what’s the problem?

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“Pastor Prince, it’s not the same anymore.”

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I understand, that’s why the first miracle that Jesus did

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was not to go out there and save people who are lost and all that.

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The first miracle Jesus did was to turn water into wine.

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No, not wine, best wine at a wedding!

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The Bible says this was the first miracle that Jesus did. Why?

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Because He knows very well that once upon a time,

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we were all dovey-eyed, we looked at each other

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for a long time.

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You know we can say things like:

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“I can melt into your eyes forever."

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Now you all eh ah eh, but you all did say that one time.

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You all forgot alright, you all forgot.

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Now you don’t want to even look at your cards anymore

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because you ee ah oo, that kind of thing.

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You can’t even put down the phone at one time:

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“You put down first la, no you put down first."

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"No you put down first.” Remember that?

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None of you did that,

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Ok: "We put down together." Remember that?

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You remember that? Ok anyway now you say:

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“Yeah what is it? Ah what?”

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There’s no more ‘dear’, there’s no more ‘sweetheart’,

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‘hi baby’. Alright. And one of the saddest things,

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no more even 'please’ or ‘thank you’ alright.

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The wine ran out. The babies came,

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diapers to be changed, mouths to feed,

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and the wine ran out.

Jesus Understands

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Jesus understands; your marriage is not abnormal.

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Many people go through this. They come to church,

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they hold hands, you know.

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But every marriage needs a third party.

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His name is Jesus. You’re never meant to

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survive with each other. It’s like a pyramid right?

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You see if you’re just focused on each other,

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the base is so far. But if you focus on Jesus,

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you both get closer and closer to each other.

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So Jesus is meant to be the centre.

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So invite Jesus again and He will turn the water into wine, alright?

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David fell in this area, David, the man after God’s heart.

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And this is for you guys.

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You know some times we have these;

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ok you have these thoughts:

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“What if I have more than one wife?”

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You have these thoughts, right?

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If you are a guy, you have these thoughts and you’re wondering:

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“Don’t let any one know I have these thoughts."

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"What if I have three wives? I think I’ll be happy."

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"I’ll be satisfied, spice is the variety of life."

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"Or variety is the spice of life.”

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Ok anyway you see when you think like that, you don’t think straight.

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So you think, “I think I’ll be happy.” Are you sure?

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David had many wives and porcupines, ok concubines, alright.

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But one day he was on his balcony, he looked down he saw

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another man’s wife, Bathsheba, and he wanted her.

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That goes to tell you, alright, it doesn’t satisfy

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because the problem is not the numbers,

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the problem is the heart.

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Ok so the Bible says he committed adultery with her,

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had her husband killed.

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God sent a prophet to talk to him.

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There was something wrong in David’s thinking in this area.

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And I know also in many of our areas where we’re having

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challenges in marriage, we have this thinking that in this area—

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God can supply in other areas, God is concerned about

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the world’s salvation and things like that, you know,

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but in this area…

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His first miracle was in this area.

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Not just turning into wine but best wine.

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And what was David’s thinking? The prophet revealed it, let’s read:

What You Lack In Your Relationship, God Can Supply!

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“Nathan said to David, ‘You are the man."

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"God says he anointed you king over Israel."

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"He delivered you, He gave you,’” notice all supply, “

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"He gave you your master’s house, your master’s wives."

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"He gave you the house of Israel and Judah."

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"And if that had been too little,” God said,

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’I also would have given you much more!’”

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Now God is not saying much more wives ok?

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It’s obvious he had a problem.

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God says if your marriage is not satisfying you, ask Me.

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Don’t try to work for yourself, don’t try to supply for yourself.

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You’ll always end up in a deeper problem.

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Even if you divorce your wife, you will still have to

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maintain this one that you’re with.

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And then what? When the wine runs out?

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Run again? Run again? God says, “Ask Me."

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"If what I’ve given you is not enough, ask Me."

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"I’ll give you much more.” Much more what? Passion (French),

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romance, ask God for it. Say, “God make my"

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"marriage intoxicating.” Amen.

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I just want to tell you this,

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the devil wants you to see God as mean, demanding, stingy.

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"God doesn’t want you to have this, doesn’t want you to do this"

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"because He doesn’t want you to have fun."

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"He doesn’t want you to have joy."

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That’s what a lot of young people out there think.

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They do not know that out there when they indulge

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and indulge, the fun goes down, down, down.

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But God’s ways, the fun goes on and on and on.

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True fulfilment, true pleasure is in the ways of God.

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But to enjoy it, let’s be like Mary.

How To Deal With The Demands

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Let’s come to Jesus’ feet and say: "Lord, today I come to you empty,"

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"fill me up, Lord."

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Alright, doesn’t have to be physically

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sitting down all the time.

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You can actually be rushing for work,

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but in your heart say: “Lord, I’m looking to you, Lord."

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"I’m in a hurry today, Lord, but I’m looking to you."

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"Thank you Lord for your wisdom."

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"Yes, there’s this assignment I must do,"

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"I’m meeting my boss, Lord, for an interview."

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"Thank you for your favour Lord, thank you for your favour.” Amen?

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And you know something, when you see God working in you,

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producing the willingness, and the performance,

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you really will say: "Worthy is the Lamb,"

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"to God be all the glory."

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It wouldn’t just be a cliché.

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It will be from your heart.